Frequently Asked Questions
If you’re curious about spirit communications, please read through this article that I wrote many years ago for a local Spiritualist church’s website. My mediumship is based on my Spiritualist beliefs and my personal experiences. I use the term “death” to describe the separation of the soul from the body. Like many other belief systems, I’m convinced that the soul continues to exist after this happens.
I know, backed by a wealth of worldwide proven demonstrations over the past 175+ years, that it’s possible and natural to communicate with souls who have left their bodies. This offers a comforting reassurance that our loved ones are never truly gone; they’re just in a different form and a different place.
A medium is an individual who has the ability to establish a connection with the souls of people and animals who no longer have an earthly body, along with guides, angels, and other loving beings of higher intelligence. All of these have a unique mind and personality. Mediums serve as a conduit, allowing these souls and beings to communicate with and through them. This process is called mediumship.
An evidential medium is someone whose goal is to prove that the soul survives after the body stops functioning. To do this, I ask the souls who come to your reading to tell me or show me things about who they were, what they did, where they lived, dates that were important, medical conditions they had, and other facts about their life while they were here. Their answers have to make enough sense to you that you can identify who it is, which proves that the only way I could know these things is because the soul, or spirit, of the person was sharing them with me.
In addition to what they said, I’ll sometimes notice mannerisms and gestures that I know aren’t mine. I’ll let you know when this happens. Sometimes, clients catch it first, especially when I’m deeply involved in the conversation with the spirit. Seeing my arms crossed and my hand holding an invisible pipe just like your grandpa did or my hands moving along an invisible keyboard as I mention your mom, who loved to play the piano, adds an extra layer of evidence to who they are.
There are quite a few, but here are my top three. One, I believe death is just another phase of life, a change from one form into another, and that we don’t need to fear it. During a reading, the souls who join us for a chat share things with me about themselves and their life on Earth that I could only know because they told me or showed them to me. Mediumship proves that the soul survives the transition called death and continues to live and act as an intelligent being. My hope is that this helps you or allows you to help someone else.
Two, a reading offers your friends and family on the other side of life the opportunity to let you know they’re okay, to make amends, and to weigh in on things happening in your life. They’re still connected to you and interested in helping you, so sometimes they want to offer advice or suggest another way to look at a situation.
And three, for more than 175 years, mediumship has been believed to have a healing effect on the grieving process. Several research studies from the year 2000 and beyond have validated this. I have friends and family who’ve transitioned into spirit, including a parent and one of my children. Afterward, the readings I had with other mediums let me know they were okay, which helped me find a sense of peace during surreal and heart-breaking times. I want as many people as possible to find that same knowing and comfort as an act of service to God and humanity.
We’ll take a few minutes to allow you to settle in and feel comfortable. Then, I’ll make a mental and physical connection to the souls of those you knew and loved, including pets, ancestors, guides, and anyone else who has an interest in your life and well-being, and act as an interpreter during the conversations that follow. I do my best to convey their communications in a way that makes sense to you for the benefit of both of you. As an evidential medium, I’m able to pick up on the images, thoughts, feelings, physical sensations, and other items that souls send our way to verify who they are and what they want you to know.
I typically allow the spirits to begin the conversation and see where it takes us. Like a lot of mediums, I believe that those who join us are the ones who are the most motivated to do so because of a desire to show their continued existence, an eagerness to make amends or update you on their progress, or simply to express their support and encouragement for you.
If there’s something genuinely pressing that you wish to discuss, please bring it to my attention at the beginning of our time together. I’ll tell you when we’re near the end of our appointment and give you time to ask about other questions or final concerns.
30-minute readings work well when you’re short on time, want to check in with those on the other side that you may have spoken to before, and when you schedule readings for a few times a year.
60-minute readings are a better fit if you’ve never had a reading before or if it’s been a while, if there’s a pressing issue, and when you only schedule readings for a couple of times a year.
Regardless of these descriptions, the most important thing to consider is which time frame feels right for you at this moment.
People just like you. And those who are nothing like you. I see a wide representation of the general public, including blue-collar workers and executives, skeptics, dis-believers and devout followers, people who’ve never experienced the death of a loved one, and people who’ve experienced several. Death is one of the greatest common uniters among us all. It’s natural to be curious and not uncommon to be afraid, apprehensive, or nervous about it. People come to find answers and peace. Some come alone, while others bring a friend or relative. All are welcome.
That’s okay; I encourage you to be skeptical and discerning. I still am, and I’ve been a medium for twenty years. At the same time, I ask that you approach this with an open curiosity and be willing to allow loved ones to connect with you. Some messages make sense immediately, while others may not be proven true or understandable until some time has passed. The amount of time varies, and while I’d love to be able to attach timelines to everything I receive from those in the world of spirit, I can only share with you what they share with me. Mull the message over in your own meditation time or whenever you have a few minutes to yourself; it’ll usually become clear.
Because I’ve put safeguards in place to prevent those types of energies from communicating with me. Any spirit that wishes to be recognized must come from a place of pure, loving energy. Their motivations must be of the highest intent, and they must desire only the best outcome for all involved. If they don’t, they’re not allowed in. No exceptions.
Many of those who come to speak with you want you to know that they’re okay, that the pain or problems they faced on Earth are gone or are being worked through, or that relationships that were broken while they were here have been mended on the other side. Their messages may speak of the love they feel for you, the support they’re offering you, suggestions they may have, and apologies they’d like to offer, but those aren’t the only items they address. The topics that come through are as varied as the personalities of the spirits who share them.
If there’s a sensitive topic they want to discuss, they do so in a manner that keeps most of the details from me and gives me just enough information to pass along the intent of the message to you. Remember, these are people who care about you. They don’t want to embarrass you or cause you problems.
For the most part, the less you say, the easier it is for me to get the messages and their meanings from spirit. We (the spirits and I) do our best to relay everything back and forth accurately, but for various reasons, glitches can happen, and sometimes, it might seem like we’re going in circles. I’ll always tell you what I’m receiving first if I feel I’m not receiving something clearly or the spirit is having trouble communicating it to me. Please tell me when I’m wrong so I can ask the spirit to clarify it or present it to me in another way. In this case, getting your input can help me more accurately pass the intent of the message along to you.
Do whatever you want with it. The souls who communicate with you do so because they care about you. Egos are connected to the body. When they enter the world of spirit, they do so ego-free. They won’t be mad at you. They recognize your free will to follow or ignore their messages as you see fit. If they think the message is important and the advice worth following, they may bring it up again at a future reading, or you may be reminded of it in various ways in the days or weeks that follow. Even then, only you can decide if the information you receive is worth acting on and when.
I’m not the one to decide how good the information you receive is; only you can decide that. Crossing over to the other side of life makes one neither instantly smarter nor wiser, and it doesn’t allow access to all of humanity’s timelines. It does change the perspective from which Earth and life events are viewed, so the souls communicating with you may be able to see situations in a different way than they did when they were here. Sometimes, they may suggest that something will happen within a certain time frame, but that can change, and it’s dependent on your actions and other outside forces. Remember that predictions aren’t signs of a good reading; the evidence and confirmations you receive and the peace they bring you are.
First, let’s clarify who’s meant by “anyone”. You have a much greater chance of making contact with someone you know who has crossed over than you do with a historical figure or celebrity. Souls know when you set up a reading appointment, when it will be, and who the medium will be. Even then, nothing is guaranteed. As I mentioned in an earlier answer, I typically allow the spirits to begin the conversation and see where it takes us. Like a lot of mediums, I believe that those who join us are the ones who are the most motivated to do so because of a desire to show their continued existence, an eagerness to make amends or update you on their progress, or simply to express their support and encouragement for you.
It helps if you take a few minutes to talk to your loved ones in spirit before coming to your reading. Invite them to join you and to let you know what they’ve been thinking and doing. This lets them know that you’re interested in hearing from them. You can do this in your mind, out loud, or both. Some people do it multiple times in the days leading up to their appointment, and others just once a few minutes beforehand.
Unfortunately, however, no medium can control who will join your reading. Souls on the other side of life maintain their free will and can decide if they want to chat or sit this one out and allow others to speak with you instead. If you were hoping to hear from a specific person and they don’t come through, I encourage you not to take it personally. Adopt an open-minded, non-judgmental frame of mind. Continue to ask your loved ones to join you in your dreams and at future readings, and let them know you’d like to hear from them; when the time and conditions are right, you will.
Tell me that at the start of your reading, and let me know who it is by sharing either their name or their relationship with you. If I begin identifying a spirit and you recognize it as that person, just let me know, and I’ll kindly send them on their way.
Yes, you are. During your reading, spirits may join us who you don’t know much about, or things might come up that may not make sense at the moment. When this happens, having written notes or a recording can make it easier to piece things together later. Choose the option that makes you happy and will help you remember what was said.
It frequently happens that clients have an “A-ha!” moment or gain insight and clarity about some items anywhere from a few hours to a few weeks afterward. I’ve even had a few people reach out to me to let me know that information shared in their reading was confirmed a couple of months later after they discovered something new.
Just one more thing. As a medium, I’ve had the privilege of conveying thousands of spirit communications, each one unique, the majority helpful, and a few quite profound. I’m honored to help you on this enlightening journey.