Frequently Asked Questions
If you’re curious about spirit communications, please read through this article that I wrote many years ago for a local Spiritualist church’s website. My mediumship is grounded in my Spiritualist beliefs and personal experiences. I use the term “death” to describe the separation of the soul from the body. Like many other belief systems, I’m convinced that the soul continues to exist after this happens.
I know, backed by a wealth of worldwide proven demonstrations over the past 175+ years, that it’s possible and natural to communicate with souls who have left their bodies. This offers a comforting reassurance that our loved ones are never truly gone; they’re just in a different form and still very much connected to us through our memories, thoughts, dreams, and love.
A medium is an individual who can establish a connection with the souls of people and animals who no longer have an earthly body, as well as with guides, angels, and other loving beings of higher intelligence. All of these have unique minds and personalities. Mediums serve as a conduits, allowing these souls and beings to communicate with and through them. This process is called mediumship.
No. While every psychic may not be a medium, every medium is, by their nature, also psychic. The term ‘psychic medium’ is redundant, just like saying ‘cheeseburger with cheese’.
In addition to connecting to your loved ones and animals in spirit, Michelle can shift her attention to gather information about your life and to communicate with the animals living alongside you.
As an evidential medium, I share evidence to verify that the souls I’m communicating with are connected to you. To do this, I ask the souls who come to your reading to tell me or show me things about who they were, what they did, where they lived, important dates, medical conditions they had, and other facts about their lives while they were here. Their answers have to make enough sense to you that you can identify who it is, which proves that the only way I could know these things is because the soul, or spirit, of the person is sharing them with me.
In addition to what they said, I’ll sometimes notice mannerisms and gestures that I know aren’t mine. I’ll tell you when this happens. Sometimes, clients catch it first, especially when I’m deeply involved in the conversation with the spirit. Seeing my arms crossed and my hand holding an invisible pipe, just like your grandpa did, or my hands moving along an invisible keyboard as I mention your mom, who loved to play the piano, adds an extra layer of evidence to who they are.
Yes. There are three reasons why I know it can. One, death is just another phase of life, a change from one form into another, and we don’t need to fear it. During a reading, the souls who join us for a chat share things with me about themselves and their lives on Earth that I could only know because they told me or showed me. Mediumship readings prove that the soul survives the transition called death and continues to live and act as an intelligent being. Knowing this can help you or allow you to help someone else.
Two, in the days or first few months immediately afterward, a reading offers your friends and family on the other side of life the opportunity to let you know they’re okay, which is our first and often biggest concern. As time here moves on, readings allow them to make amends and to weigh in on things happening in your life, which can bring closure and peace. In the long term, it’s comforting to know that the people you thought you ‘lost’ are still connected to you and interested in helping you. You may come to appreciate the advice they offer or the suggestions they make about another way to look at a situation.
And three, for more than 175 years, mediumship has had a healing effect on the grieving process. Several research studies published since 2000 have validated this. I have friends and family who’ve transitioned into spirit, including a parent and one of my children. Afterward, the readings I had with other mediums let me know they were okay, which helped me find a sense of peace during surreal and heartbreaking times. As an act of service to God and humanity, I want as many people as possible to find that same knowing and comfort.
We’ll take a few minutes to allow you to settle in and feel comfortable. Then, I’ll make a mental and physical connection to the souls of those you knew and loved — pets, family, friends, and anyone else who has an interest in your life and well-being — and act as an interpreter during the conversations that follow. I do my best to convey their communications in a way that makes sense to you for the benefit of both of you. As an evidential medium, I’m able to pick up on the images, thoughts, feelings, physical sensations, and other items that souls send our way to verify who they are and what they want you to know.
I typically let the spirits lead the conversation and see where it takes us. Like many mediums, I believe those who join us are the most motivated to do so because of a desire to show their continued existence, an eagerness to make amends or update you on their progress, or simply to express their support and encouragement for you.
I’ll tell you when we’re near the end of our appointment and give you time to ask about other questions or final concerns.
30-minute readings work well when you haven’t had a reading before and want to see what it’s all about or if it might be helpful to you, if you’re short on time, when you want to check in with those on the other side that you may have spoken to before, and when you schedule readings a couple of times a year.
60-minute readings are a better fit if you’ve never had a reading before and know it will be helpful, if it’s been a while since your last reading, when you’d like to connect with more than two souls in spirit, and when you only schedule readings a couple of times a year.
Regardless of these descriptions, the most important thing to consider is which time frame feels right for you at this moment.
People just like you. And those who are nothing like you. I see a broad representation of the general public, including blue-collar workers and executives, skeptics, disbelievers, and devout followers, people who’ve never experienced the death of a loved one, and people who’ve experienced several. Death is one of the greatest common uniters among us all. It’s natural to be curious, and it’s not uncommon to feel afraid, apprehensive, or nervous about it. People come to find answers and peace. Most come alone, while others bring a friend or relative. All are welcome.
That’s okay; I encourage you to be skeptical and discerning. I still am, and I’ve been a medium for more than twenty years. At the same time, I ask that you approach this with open curiosity and invite those souls you’d like to hear from to join you. Some messages make sense immediately, while others may not be proven true or understandable until some time has passed. The amount of time varies, and while I’d love to be able to attach timelines to everything I receive from those in the world of spirit, I can only share with you what they share with me. Mull the message over in your own meditation time or whenever you have a few minutes to yourself; it’ll usually become clear.
Because I’ve put safeguards in place to prevent those types of energies from communicating with me. Any spirit that wishes to be recognized must come from a place of pure, loving energy. Their motivations must be of the highest intent, and they must desire only the best outcome for all involved. If they don’t, they’re not allowed in. No exceptions.
Many of those who come to speak with you want you to know that they’re okay, that the pain or problems they faced on Earth are gone or are being worked through, or that relationships that were broken while they were here have been mended on the other side. Their messages may speak to the love they feel for you, the support they’re offering, suggestions they have, and apologies they’d like to offer, but those aren’t the only things they address. The topics that come through are as varied as the spirits’ personalities.
If there’s a sensitive topic they want to discuss, they do so in a manner that keeps most of the details from me and gives me just enough information to pass along the intent of the message to you. Remember, these are people who care about you. They don’t want to embarrass you or cause you problems.
The less you say, the easier it is for me to get the messages and their meanings from spirit. Things you tell me ahead of time can easily activate my thinking brain, which shuts down my mediumship. If it helps, pretend you’re in the witness protection program or that you’re a spy; the less I know, the better it will be for both of us.
We (the spirits and I) do our best to relay everything back and forth accurately, but for various reasons, glitches can happen, and sometimes, it might seem like we’re going in circles. I’ll always tell you what I’m receiving first if I feel I’m not receiving something clearly or if the spirit is having trouble communicating it to me. Please tell me when I’m wrong so I can ask the spirit to clarify it or present it to me in another way. In this case, your input can help me convey the message’s intent to you more accurately.
Do whatever you want with it. The souls who communicate with you do so because they care about you. Egos are connected to the body. When they enter the world of spirit, they do so ego-free. They won’t be mad at you. They recognize your free will to follow or ignore their messages as you see fit. If they think the message is important and the advice worth following, they may bring it up again at a future reading, or you may be reminded of it in various ways in the days or weeks that follow. Even then, only you can decide if the information you receive is worth acting on and when.
I’m not the one to decide how good the information you receive is; only you can decide that. Crossing over to the other side of life makes one neither instantly smarter nor wiser, and it doesn’t allow access to all of humanity’s timelines. It does change the perspective from which Earth and life events are viewed, so the souls communicating with you may be able to see situations differently than they did when they were here. Sometimes they may suggest that something will happen within a certain time frame, but that can change and it’s dependent on your actions and other outside forces. Remember that predictions aren’t signs of a good reading; the evidence and confirmations you receive and the peace they bring you are.
First, let’s clarify who “anyone” refers to. You have a much greater chance of making contact with someone you know who has crossed over than you do with a historical figure or celebrity. Souls know when you set up a reading appointment, when it will be, and who the medium will be. Even then, nothing is guaranteed. As I mentioned in an earlier answer, I typically let the spirits lead the conversation and see where it takes us. Like many mediums, I believe those who join us are the most motivated to do so because of a desire to show their continued existence, an eagerness to make amends or update you on their progress, or simply to express their support and encouragement for you.
It helps if you take a few minutes to talk to your loved ones in spirit before coming to your reading. Invite them to join you and to let you know what they’ve been thinking and doing. This lets them know that you’re interested in hearing from them. You can do this in your mind, out loud, or both. Some people do it multiple times in the days leading up to their appointment, and others do it just once a few minutes beforehand.
Unfortunately, however, no medium can control who will join your reading. Souls on the other side of life maintain their free will and can decide whether to chat or sit this one out and let others speak with you instead. Near the end of your reading, I’ll ask if you have any questions. This is the best time to tell me, “There was someone else I was hoping to hear from.”. That gives me time to reach out and invite them in.
Please don’t take it personally if the person you wanted to join us doesn’t make an appearance. Adopt an open-minded, non-judgmental frame of mind. Continue to ask your loved ones to join you in your dreams and at future readings, and let them know you’d like to hear from them; when the time and conditions are right, you will.
Tell me that at the start of your reading, and let me know who it is by sharing either their name or their relationship with you. If I begin identifying a spirit and you recognize it as that person, just let me know, and I’ll kindly send them on their way.
Yes, you are. During your reading, spirits may join us who you don’t know much about, or things might come up that may not make sense at the moment. When this happens, having written notes or a recording can make it easier to piece things together later. Choose the option that makes you happy and helps you remember what was said.
It frequently happens that clients have an “A-ha!” moment or gain insight and clarity about some items anywhere from a few hours to a few weeks afterward. I’ve even had a few people reach out to me to let me know that information shared in their reading was confirmed a couple of months later, after they discovered something new.
Just one more thing. As a medium, I’ve had the privilege of conveying thousands of spirit communications, each one unique, the majority helpful, and a few quite profound. I consider it an honor to help you on this enlightening journey.